What you’re living through

Sage’s Circle

Eldership, mentorship and legacy — for men moving from accumulating to distilling what actually matters.

Contributors3rd Thursday and 1st Saturday

A MenLiving gathering

Next gatherings

Carried by contributors, the men who gather here. One monthly gift — asked, never required — and no per-circle purchase.

Contributors carry these gatherings — a monthly gift is asked at the door, never required. Join with a monthly gift

Who this circle is for

Men moving into or already living in eldership, and men who want to think seriously about what they are handing on.

What a gathering is like

Eldership, mentorship and legacy — the move from accumulating to distilling what actually matters. It runs twice a month, and contributors carry it.

What you don’t have to do

  • You don’t have to talk. Listening is participation, and plenty of men listen the first few times.
  • You don’t have to fix anyone. Nobody will try to fix you either — that is the agreement, said out loud at the start.
  • You don’t have to have a story ready. Men speak from their own experience, and “I don’t know yet” is an experience.
  • You don’t have to keep coming. Men come once, or for a season, or for years. Coming three times and moving on is the model working.
  • You don’t have to explain why you came. Nobody will ask, and nobody will follow up afterwards.

Same agreements everywhere. What changes is the room.

Ready when you are

Most are free, most weeks of the year. You can listen the whole time and nobody will ask you why.

Keep the door open for the men who need it

Connection should stay within reach.

Most circles are free because donors pay for them. Your gift funds facilitator training and keeps the open door open for the men who need it most.

4 in 5
U.S. suicide deaths are men — a rate nearly four times higher than women’s. CDC, 2023
15%
of men say they have no close friends — five times more than in 1990. Survey Center on American Life, 2021