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Friendship & loneliness

Why men lose friends in midlife, what it costs, and how connection gets rebuilt one conversation at a time.

9 episodes

  1. Alexandra Friedman...The Lost Art of FriendshipExplicit

    After eighteen years away from the Pacific Northwest, former AWS tech marketer Alexandra "Alex" Friedman returned home to find that professional achievement was no safeguard against profound urban isolation. Confronting…

    S5 · E171 hr 8 minFriendship & loneliness

  2. Ron Dresher & Brian Harris...Balancing LifeExplicit

    In this episode of If You've Come This Far , Chris and Shaun sit down with Ron Dresher and Brian Harris, founders of the Los Angeles-based Life Transition Group. Approaching their 80s with the metabolic age and energy…

    S5 · E141 hr 6 minAging & eldership

  3. Janice McCabe...Making, Keeping and Losing FriendsExplicit

    In this episode, Shaun and Chris interview Janice McCabe, a sociologist from Dartmouth College and author of "Making, Keeping, and Losing Friends." They discuss making friends in college, the importance of propinquity…

    S5 · E31 hr 1 minFriendship & loneliness

  4. Pete Davis...Join or DieExplicit

    Join Chris and Shaun as they chat with Pete Davis, writer, film maker, and civic advocate about his book, Dedicated: The Case for Commitment in An Age of Infinite Browsing and his documentary, "Join or Die." The guys…

    S4 · E201 hr 9 minService & community

  5. Sam Pressler...Connective TissueExplicit

    in this episode, Chris and Shaun talk with Sam Pressler, founder of the non-profit, the Armed Services Arts Partnership (ASAP) and his new project, Connective Tissue. The guys discuss entrepreneurship, grandmothers,…

    S4 · E121 hr 15 minFriendship & loneliness

  6. Alex Grodd...The DisagreementExplicit

    In this episode, Chris and Shaun talk with Alex Grodd, founder of The Disagreement. The guys discuss Bill Bradley, curiosity, entrepreneurship, Alex’s first start-up: A Better Lesson, education, healthy disagreement,…

    S3 · E141 hr 20 minService & community

  7. The Sister Project...Cozy AF

    In this episode, Chris and Shaun get cozy with Lauren Massarella and Michelle Anderson from the Sister Project, "a place for us sisters and you sisters-from-other-misters to gather, converse, sometimes complain,…

    S3 · E61 hr 15 minFriendship & loneliness

  8. Dr. Geoffrey Greif: Understanding Male FriendshipsExplicit

    In this episode, Shaun and Chris talk with Dr. Geoffrey Greif, Professor, University of Maryland School of Social Work. The guys dig into Dr. Greif's book, Buddy System: Understanding male friendships, explore must,…

    S1 · E1252 minFriendship & loneliness

  9. Billy Baker: Calling Guys to Hang Out!Explicit

    Shaun and Chris talk with Billy Baker, husband, father, Boston Globe reporter and author of "We Need to Hang Out."

    S1 · E41 hr 16 minFriendship & loneliness

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4 in 5
U.S. suicide deaths are men — a rate nearly four times higher than women’s. CDC, 2023
15%
of men say they have no close friends — five times more than in 1990. Survey Center on American Life, 2021