by Donald Bialkowski
I wanted to share something from my “march unmadness” series — simple strategies to bring more ease, connection, and clarity into your life and relationships. because when it comes to meaningful change, it’s often the small shifts that create the biggest ripple effects.
THE STRATEGY
Here’s one of my favorite strategies: don’t make it worse.
When things aren’t going well — whether in a conversation, a conflict, or a tough situation — there’s often a temptation to react quickly, defend yourself, or push harder.
But one of the most powerful things you can do in those moments is simply not make it worse.
Pausing before you respond, taking a breath, or choosing not to engage in the heat of the moment can prevent escalation and create space for clarity.
It’s not always about fixing things immediately — especially in relationships. sometimes it’s enough to just not add fuel to the fire.
THE PRACTICE
The next time you feel triggered or upset, try this:
- pause before responding
- ask yourself, “will this response make things better or worse?”
- if you’re unsure, give yourself permission to step away and return when you’re calmer
Small moments of restraint can lead to greater peace and connection over time.
What could you choose not to make worse today?
Sending well wishes and resolve,
Donald
Meet Donald Bialkowski
Facilitator
I grew up in a blue-collar family marked by intergenerational depression and an often absent father. As a teenager, I turned to substances to cope, a path that dominated my life for many years. Despite these challenges, I earned a graduate degree in social work and gained experience in various mental health settings. It was during the pandemic, however, that I discovered my true calling.
