The words in the blog will not be anything you likely haven’t heard before. Sometimes a simple reminder is helpful, though, especially in these busy times as we approach the holiday season. Thanksgiving, of course, is an opportunity to give thanks. In other words, it’s an opportunity to be grateful for what we have. This concept is simple but often escapes me. I get so caught up in my own story of my work schedule, my kids’ schedules, my personal issues, my financial position and the like that I miss the abundance right in front of me. I’m grateful for so much and sometimes it takes more consciousness to focus more on the good than the challenging.
I recently listened to one of my favorite podcasters who was talking about how to talk to family members wherein there may be significant political differences. Given the polarization of our country over the last ten or so years, it’s a sad fact that politics have driven friends and families apart. I can speak to some of my own friendships which have changed due to some substantial differences in opinion. However, this podcaster discussed something I thought was very poignant. He was suggesting if engaging in political discussions over the Thanksgiving dinner table, think of the dialogue as a discussion and NOT a debate. Go into a discussion not trying to win an argument, but to explain your position on something. And then, sit back and listen to someone else’s position on an issue. Don’t argue or try to sway their opinion. They are entitled to their own opinion, just as you are yours. Maybe the exchange of ideas and perspectives, if nothing else, can simply help both parties gain better understanding of one another and thus create stronger connections. I’m in a romantic relationship with someone who has vastly different views on issues than I do. At first, it was tough because I noticed I was trying to change her opinions. And while I still catch myself trying to persuade her at times, I’m more accepting of her perspective. I listen and ask further questions, again, not to prove her wrong, but to help me better understand her. This subtle change has done wonders for our ability to talk about things wherein we know we have significant difference and has, therefore, brought us closer together.
So during this time wherein people have opportunity to connect with family and friends, think about using gratitude and appreciation as a foundation for connection with the ultimate goal of creating better understanding. Think about trying to learn more about family and friends, and giving them the opportunity to know more about you. It could be the ticket to a more peaceful gathering and more importantly, a deeper connection.
Here’s to gratitude, peace, understanding, connection and love. Happy Thanksgiving to all.
Jason
Could you share the link to that Marco Polo channel? I’d be interested in joining that!