I just finished Caitlin Moran’s new book, What About Men? Moran is a decorated British journalist, feminist and the author of previous books, How To Be A Woman, How To Build A Girl and More Than A Woman. Her notion for the book came about as she traveled the UK giving talks to groups of women who were asking her, what about men? The book is funny and thoughtful. I plan to cover more of her theories/ideas in future posts. Today, though, a simple list for your consideration. Fully aware of all the negative attitudes about masculinity (so toxic 🤨), Moran asked her large Twitter and Facebook followings, what is good about masculinity? What should we be celebrating? Responses flooded in for three days and basically fell into the following categories:
Up for anything
A huge urge to be helpful
A relationship with nature
And just a general sense of mucking in (muck in: share tasks or facilities with other people on an equal basis.)
What do you think of this list? I hesitate to get into a review of characteristics that are masculine or feminine because it risks solidifying the stereotypes. I chose to go for it today to foster a little positive discussion about men and to see if I could get you to comment on the list (what can I say?). Is there a feature you disagree with? Some that are missing?
One last point, in an interesting twist, several of her responders thought their answers to Moran’s query sounded like they were describing a dog. From this reaction, Moran makes an amusing, yet striking comparison:
“If men are like dogs, in some ways, then it’s no wonder that all the recent conversations about ‘masculinity being toxic’ has resulted in either a sense of depression and resignation in men; or else snapping, snarling misogyny and Manosphere nihilism. After all, if a dog starts being treated with suspicion-if it can tell that people are frightened of it; if all it hears is people angrily calling it a ‘bad dog’; if all conversations about dogs are about how bad they are- it will either slink away, under the table, crushed; or else start barking and believing it is a bad dog.” Hmmm…What do you think?