Calling All Complacent White Straight Males

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I am complacent when it comes to the tragedies that fill up my newsfeed – Charlottesville and North Korea, just to name a few. When I hear bad news, I pause for a moment and think to myself, “I’m scared” or “That’s horrible”, then I then go back to my business – working, parenting, being the best husband I can …

Straight men showing PDA?

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In this video, straight Dutch men are holding hands in public in response to the gay couple who were physically attacked for a public display of affection…. I find this powerful and moving, and I would love to see more examples of this kind of solidarity in our own country. Right now it seems the only acceptable reason for …

Parental Amnesia

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The following is a short list off the top of my head of some personal bad decision making from my adolescence. @ 5 years old I played “doctor” with a girl neighbor across the street engaging in a session of “you show me yours and I’ll show you mine.” @ 6 years old I had physical fights with my older …

Don’t Be A Dick

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I struggle with the writing process. My mind works in the form of bullet points as opposed to long-form which is what prohibits me from saying what I want to say. But I feel I have ideas of value to share. (My English teachers always told me never to start a sentence with a preposition like “but”, but she’s not …

What is “Men’s Work?”

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I have been doing a weekly podcast with my wife Cathy called Zen Parenting Radio for the last 6 years. The podcast is not so much about parenting, instead it’s mostly about self-awareness. Typically it’s simply the two of us on the podcast, but every now and again we invite guests to be interviewed. This week we invited two leaders of MKP to explaining what MKP is all about.

11 Mistakes Your Marriage Needs You to Stop Making

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I’m 11 years into my marriage and I don’t pretend to be an expert. However, I know my foundation is solid and will endure the test of time. Mostly because when I screw up, I do my best to learn and grow. Marriage is not easy. I want mine to be one for the ages, and for that to happen, …

Am I a Bad Dad? Am I a Bad Husband?

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I have been in an on-line debate with a few close friends of mine regarding whether or not men have the nurturing gene the way women do.  I argue that I while I have the ability to do everything (less child birth and nursing) that my wife can do regarding the nurturing of our three daughters, it does not come …

Silence Is Not Golden

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I am a white straight male. I can wear a hoodie when I walk down the street. I feel safe because I live in an upper-middle class neighborhood.  I don’t get judged because of my skin color.  I don’t have to give any of my three daughters “the talk”, that so many men and women of color have to give …

What Is Wrong And Right With This Video

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I posted a 53 second video yesterday morning on my Facebook page. It is of a little boy (maybe 3 years old) stroking, protecting, and caressing his newborn brother. That’s it. Big deal, right? Well the video has been viewed over 68 million times. Why? Because it’s sweet and endearing. It’s also safe. It’s okay for this boy to be sweet and loving toward his little brother.

Cubs- All The Way?

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Let’s get one thing straight- I am a White Sox fan.  But on the eve of this Wildcard playoff game between the Cubs and the Pirates, I am 100% rooting for the North-siders.  I have never subscribed to the idea that in order to be a true fan of one, you must hate the other. I don’t feel we as …